Finding New Adult Friends is Hard

I recently had a conversation with a friend, and she brought up that she needs to start praying over her marriage the way she prays over work. She trusts God so much with her work, but when it comes to her marriage, she doesn’t even bother fighting as hard for it. 

I am selective about what I want to pray for.  

I pray about being a good enough mom and wife or having a good work day, but if I zoom out and look at what I have been struggling with in the last several months, my heart’s been yearning for real connection with people — a new core group of friends. 

Finding new adult friends is hard. 

Everyone has priorities.

No one wants to waste time. 

We, now, understand boundaries. 

It’s like dating: Do I want to invest my time in this person? 

What if it doesn’t work out? What if they think I am weird? 

Hold up — who said I am weird? 

This lie that started when I was 8 years old created a false belief in my mind that I am not worthy to have friends, because my values may not align with most people. 

This lie told me God only wanted me to live a just “good enough” life. 

I stopped believing there is something more for me out there. 

I didn’t even bother asking God for the right kind of friends for me. 

Instead, I chose to settle for mediocre faith.

This week, I came to an important realization: in order to meet an extraordinary community of Christian friends, I needed to believe that God will answer my prayer, and this starts with praying with full confidence that He knows exactly who my tribe is for me. 

He is the almighty God.